Now that we're on the topic of marriage..

Well, like Mingyan said, it doesn't matter what style of marriage you have, it's the person you're marrying and the marriage itself that's truly important. But is it really?

I mean, what is a marriage?

I was talking to Sheradine about this only yesterday and we both agree that sometimes we are under the illusion that once our relationship reach the wedding bell stage, we will live happily ever after. Maybe that is the case in our parents' or better, grandparents' time. But the effort to maintain a happy relationship doesn't end with marriage. We can still divorce if we don't handle crisis (that are bound to happen) well.

And Sheradine told me something interesting that sadly I could really relate to. She was saying that a friend who was getting married was more excited about the fact that she was going to be wearing a wedding gown than about marrying the guy she love.

But think about it, you can still live with the guy without marrying him and be happy together. Or you can get married and still run the risk of parting. You still love him with or without the marriage. The only difference about having a wedding is all the fanfare and telling the whole world that you're together. (Actually, even without the wedding, the whole world already knew that you're an item so that's not really a valid point.) Without a wedding special enough for you to remember fondly of, what's the point of a wedding then?

So, personally, I feel marriage changes nothing except your legal status. And also perhaps to add a small hurdle to prevent break-ups, but with the hurdle becoming more and more insignificant as our ideals revolutionise.

You might not agree with me. And I admit I might be wrong. But that's really how I see it now. Am I being too skeptical? Am I giving marriage too little credit? I truly hope someone will contradict me, show me a different point of view, and convince me that I am wrong.