Have you ever wondered what kind of a person you really are? I mean, haven't you wondered sometimes if you're really an extrovert or an introvert? At times, you may dish out the most rational advice and at others, your heart simply rules over you head. And just when you thought you're truly sensitive to people's feelings, you turn around and lashes out at another in anger.

And each time, out of boredom, you may fill out a personality test. You may come across questions that made you really conflicted. It seems your answer could go either way.

Who are we really? Or rather, will we ever find out who we really are?

These seems like one of those questions that will never be answered, along with the likes of "does God really exist?" and "what's the purpose of life?"

I have a theory for this though.

I think we are who we want to be. We behave in ways that will make us appear to others and also ourselves that we are that person. I am not just refering to hypocrites badass who, on a conscious level, give to charity to appear compassionate. I am also refering to everyone on a subconscious level, behaving under social pressure. We conform our thinking so much so that we did not even realise we're actually acting what we would want ourselves to be perceived. In fact, I think we would have been lost without social pressure. We would just be empty bottles floating along the current.

This of course, leads to the assumption that human are highly flexible, which seems impossible. Who would want to be shy when they can have more friends by being more outgoing? But you have forgotten about the years of social pressure that shapes this person's behavior while growing up. If this person sets his heart and mind into becoming sociable, it will happen. Yes, I agree that there is an invisible inertia to change. But it is invisible, not invincible. If the motivation is strong enough, nothing is impossible.

Haven't you seen or heard of the power of human strength when facing adversity? The ability to stretch towards places when it seems to do so would be a miracle? An uneducated mother of three who lost her husband in an automobile accident pick herself up and bring up the children against all odds. An entrepreuner finally succeeding after countless failure and setbacks.

So if you wish to be a better person, it is possible. You are not born selfish, temperamental or unkind. If things get bleak, you are not made of plastic. You are more than metal, you are of flesh and blood and soul.